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thewatchmaker"Stalking is a form of mental assault, in which the perpetrator repeatedly, unwantedly, and disruptively breaks into the life-world of the victim, with whom he has no relationship (or no longer has), with motives that are directly or indirectly traceable to the affective sphere. Moreover, the separated acts that make up the intrusion cannot by themselves cause the mental abuse, but do taken together (cumulative effect)." Technology ethics professor Lambèr Royakkers
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shades_of_sylar deleted her Google Plus account or they did it for her. I'm not sure which, but that is one less place that I will ever have to deal with her obsessive need to be a part of my existence. I'm sure she'll make some other no name account to follow me, but whatever. I must admit that I lost my temper on Twitter Thursday night, and I had a little rant about the special snowflake nutcase there. I'm not proud of myself, but a person can only hold back for so long. I'm also Scot/Sicilian. I have a temper. I freely admit it, and she had it coming.
Her parting shot was to report my Google + profile where I was warned to change to a "common use" name. I've used the Watchmaker for 4 years, and one would think that's "common use" enough, but I gave in and changed my profile name. It's now Lee Gabriel, which is a pen name I'd picked out a few weeks ago. I like the name, and it's no big deal for me to have to use it there. It's still not my real name. They don't ask for "real name" just a "common use" name. So Lee Gabriel it is, and it's not for Sylar. It's for the angel Gabriel, who is the patron of writers and journalists.
For the stalker to have to give up her identity as Shades of Sylar somewhere is a great blow to her. That persona is all that she is. She has no world outside of her Twitter and Facebook, and although she has never managed to RP the character, she thinks she has. I was told that I should let this go, and that since she lives on the other side of the country she can't physically hurt me. Well mental anguish and stress count. I have high blood pressure. Was I supposed to let the stress cause a stroke? Would it have been a real threat then?
I'm counting her Google Plus removal as a victory, and I hope that she's finally going to leave me the fuck alone.
Speaking of Google Plus if you'd like to follow me I'm at gplus.to/thewatchmaker . If you need an invite, let me know in a comment.
Thanks for listening to me bitch, and thanks for you comments of support on this issue. I'm so glad that unlike some people, I have real friends.
Fron Wikipedia
False accusations: At one time, Mel was spamming Twitter with messages that I was a sociopath and that I thought I was Sylar. She still will attempt to make this accusations, but since most of her followers are bots, no one cares. But for quite a long period of time, people were afraid to approach me because they read what she was saying about me. By doing this she cut me off from meeting new people.
Attempts to gather information about the victim: This behavior was part of her need to start folowing/friending anyone I was friends with. She went to my RL LJ and started following everyone there at one point. This forced me to cut off communications with a lot of authors because I didn't want her spouting her false accusations about me to them. It would damage my reputation in the real world there. Each time I told her to go away I would get emails from my friends asking, "Why is your fucking stalker following all of my LJs..Twitter...?"
False victimization: Mel's really good at playing the too stupid to live card. She has people, who are otherwise quite intelligent, believing that she is an innocent victim. She just wants to be my friend. I'm sorry. If someone I wanted to be my friend, told me to fuck off as many times as I've told this woman, I would leave them alone. But she's not capable of that. Instead she plays the poor pitiful me game, and sadly people are naive and fall for it.
shades_of_sylar deleted her Google Plus account or they did it for her. I'm not sure which, but that is one less place that I will ever have to deal with her obsessive need to be a part of my existence. I'm sure she'll make some other no name account to follow me, but whatever. I must admit that I lost my temper on Twitter Thursday night, and I had a little rant about the special snowflake nutcase there. I'm not proud of myself, but a person can only hold back for so long. I'm also Scot/Sicilian. I have a temper. I freely admit it, and she had it coming. Her parting shot was to report my Google + profile where I was warned to change to a "common use" name. I've used the Watchmaker for 4 years, and one would think that's "common use" enough, but I gave in and changed my profile name. It's now Lee Gabriel, which is a pen name I'd picked out a few weeks ago. I like the name, and it's no big deal for me to have to use it there. It's still not my real name. They don't ask for "real name" just a "common use" name. So Lee Gabriel it is, and it's not for Sylar. It's for the angel Gabriel, who is the patron of writers and journalists.
For the stalker to have to give up her identity as Shades of Sylar somewhere is a great blow to her. That persona is all that she is. She has no world outside of her Twitter and Facebook, and although she has never managed to RP the character, she thinks she has. I was told that I should let this go, and that since she lives on the other side of the country she can't physically hurt me. Well mental anguish and stress count. I have high blood pressure. Was I supposed to let the stress cause a stroke? Would it have been a real threat then?
I'm counting her Google Plus removal as a victory, and I hope that she's finally going to leave me the fuck alone.
Speaking of Google Plus if you'd like to follow me I'm at gplus.to/thewatchmaker . If you need an invite, let me know in a comment.
Thanks for listening to me bitch, and thanks for you comments of support on this issue. I'm so glad that unlike some people, I have real friends.
Fron Wikipedia
False accusations: At one time, Mel was spamming Twitter with messages that I was a sociopath and that I thought I was Sylar. She still will attempt to make this accusations, but since most of her followers are bots, no one cares. But for quite a long period of time, people were afraid to approach me because they read what she was saying about me. By doing this she cut me off from meeting new people.
Attempts to gather information about the victim: This behavior was part of her need to start folowing/friending anyone I was friends with. She went to my RL LJ and started following everyone there at one point. This forced me to cut off communications with a lot of authors because I didn't want her spouting her false accusations about me to them. It would damage my reputation in the real world there. Each time I told her to go away I would get emails from my friends asking, "Why is your fucking stalker following all of my LJs..Twitter...?"
False victimization: Mel's really good at playing the too stupid to live card. She has people, who are otherwise quite intelligent, believing that she is an innocent victim. She just wants to be my friend. I'm sorry. If someone I wanted to be my friend, told me to fuck off as many times as I've told this woman, I would leave them alone. But she's not capable of that. Instead she plays the poor pitiful me game, and sadly people are naive and fall for it.
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